{"id":601,"date":"2014-12-30T18:01:16","date_gmt":"2014-12-31T01:01:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tamarlobell.com\/?p=601"},"modified":"2019-11-25T16:56:56","modified_gmt":"2019-11-26T00:56:56","slug":"im-sorry-is-very-powerful-sometimes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tamarlobell.com\/2014\/12\/30\/im-sorry-is-very-powerful-sometimes\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI\u2019m sorry\u201d is very powerful (sometimes).\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"

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“I’m sorry” can heal wounds and open communication.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m sorry\u201d can change a moment.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cI\u2019m sorry\u201d can change how we are perceived in ways we don\u2019t intend.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I was at a conference recently where one of the main speakers began his presentation by apologizing for himself. After thanking the audience for inviting him, he said \u201cI\u2019m sorry you have to sit and listen to me.\u00a0 I\u2019m the boring business guy.\u201d<\/p>\n

He was invited to speak to this audience of 300 because he is<\/span> an expert in his field and the audience needed his information. Yet, he continued to apologize for being the boring business guy throughout his talk. \u00a0He even said his work wasn’t as important as the work of the audience members.<\/p>\n

He threw himself under the bus by apologizing for himself.<\/p>\n

I imagine he was a little nervous.\u00a0 Maybe his nervousness made him feel like he wasn\u2019t that important.\u00a0 Maybe he told himself that story \u2013 that he wasn\u2019t as important as the people in the audience.\u00a0 Maybe he believes it.<\/p>\n

But, the reality is that he was invited to present because the audience considers him an expert in his field – a leader.\u00a0 They expect him to \u201cown\u201d his expertise.\u00a0By apologizing for who he is, he told the audience he wasn’t the expert and that his information wasn\u2019t that important.\u00a0 And, he he told them he is boring!<\/p>\n

He gave his power away by apologizing for himself.<\/strong><\/span><\/h4>\n

Words are powerful.\u00a0 Sometimes they slip out and leave an impact that we don\u2019t intend.<\/p>\n

People look up to you and pay close attention to your words and actions. \u00a0You set the tone. As audience members, we believe what we are told. \u00a0That day, we were told he’s the boring business guy.<\/p>\n

Reframing a message allows us to keep our power.<\/span><\/h4>\n

Instead of throwing himself under the bus, he could have said “Today,\u00a0I am going to share information that will make your work easier.” \u00a0Who doesn’t want to hear how their work can be easier?<\/p>\n

In reality, the audience wants to hear from an expert. \u00a0<\/span><\/h4>\n

By reframing our messages, we keep our power. We don’t throw ourselves under the bus.<\/p>\n

Do you give your power away?<\/span><\/h4>\n

I would love to learn from you. \u00a0Please leave a comment and share a story of how you have given your power away. Tell me how you would reframe your message.<\/p>\n

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